Happy Father’s Day!

As a woman who has dealt with infertility issues, I know how hard it is to make it through a parental holiday, namely Mother’s Day. What I forget sometimes is that it’s also hard on my husband. He wants to be a father just as much as I want to be a mother. So, Father’s Day is difficult for him.

I don’t usually write about issues that aren’t my own, but I feel like the topic of infertility is almost always directed at women and, perhaps unintentionally, men get left out of the conversation. Their feelings are just as valid and need to be recognized. I know it can be hard to talk about these things, believe me, I get it. But it should be noted that it’s ok for men to be part of the infertility topic. In fact, it’s vital. They are half of the equation after all.

So, to all the men who long to be fathers, but haven’t quite gotten there yet, I feel your pain and want you to know that your feelings have merit. Today may be challenging, but you will get through it. You may have to hide away from social media and people in general, I know I do, but you are not alone. There is support out there if you need it.

I hope everyone’s weekend is better than expected!

Remembering the Fallen

It’s Memorial Day weekend. Time for cookouts, family, and honoring those that have fallen fighting for our freedom. It’s important to remember that the freedoms we enjoy every day are not free. They are earned by the blood, sweat, and tears of the men and women of the United States military. It’s easy to take what we have for granted, to become complacent about the source of our liberties. That’s why it’s so vital that, at least a few times a year, we take a moment and give thanks to those that fight for our rights.

I’m proud to be a veteran. In fact, the military is a deep part of my family history – my father is a veteran, my husband is a veteran, and my brother and brother-in-law are currently serving. So, to all those that take up the mantle, I say Thank You.

I hope everyone has a fun and safe weekend!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Tomorrow, May 12th, has multiple meanings for me. The most obvious is that it’s Mother’s Day. I love my mother immensely and know just how lucky I am to have her in my life. It’s also the day, seventeen years ago, that I met my husband. Another lucky break for me.

What I’m trying to say is that, while Mother’s Day is difficult for me for personal, fertility-based reasons, it’s also a day that has brought me great joy. It is a day of contrasts for me indeed.

I hope everyone has a great weekend!

Happy Birthday, Alice!

Alice Liddell, the inspiration behind Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, is 167 years old today. At least, she would have been if she were still alive. Either way, her spirit lives on in those that find joy and fulfillment in the fanciful tales spun in her honor.

It’s also Star Wars Day. Yet another fantastic world that has captured the imagination of many.

Whether it be the whimsy of Alice or the drama of Star Wars, or both, today is quite the day for celebration. I hope everyone has a delightful and creative day.

May the Fourth be with you!

Happy Easter!

Tomorrow holds a great deal of meaning to many people. For me, it’s more about it being my parents’ anniversary. In fact, it’s their 40th anniversary. Quite an accomplishment, especially in today’s world. Most people view marriage as something of a temporary nature. More like dating than an actual commitment.

I hold a different view.

Perhaps it’s old fashioned, but I believe that marriage is meant to last a lifetime. Marriage is hard work. I know from experience. I have been married for almost 17 years myself and it hasn’t been one long walk in the park. But even when times get hard, for whatever reason, I have never seen it as an excuse to just give up. And, luckily for me, neither has my husband. We both have the same view on taking vows. We take our vows to each other seriously, just as we took our vows to our country seriously.

I appreciate that being with someone else, anyone else, can have its trials and tribulations. All I’m saying is that it shouldn’t be so easy to throw away what should be a lifelong commitment.

That was a little preachy, I know. I just have strong opinions when it comes to the state of matrimony.

I hope everyone has a Happy Easter and, to my parents, Happy 40th Anniversary. We all love and respect you so much!!

Valentine’s Day 2019

I’ve been waiting for Alita: Battle Angel to come out for over a year. It was originally scheduled to be released last July, the day before my anniversary to be exact. I was super excited to see it as our date movie, but it was not to be. I was so mad. Needless to say, I have been both annoyed by the longer wait and eagerly anticipating the release.

It finally happened. Valentine’s Day. A perfect day for a date movie.

It was spectacular!

Overall, I was really happy with the cinematography. The storyline kept me engaged, until the end that is. It felt rather lacking to me.

Still, I am satisfied that I finally got to see this movie. I’m sure it’ll be one that we buy and watch more than once, weak ending and all.

I hope everyone had a lovely Valentine’s Day. See you all next week!

Remembrance

Twenty-two years ago today, my great-grandmother passed away. I didn’t know her as well as I would have liked, but I do have some fond memories. She always wore a turban, for some reason, had a collection of glass trinkets. She gave me one for my birthday one year. It was a glass dish shaped like a bunch of grapes. It was beautiful and particularly special since she didn’t usually give away parts of her collection. I’m pretty sure I still have it, somewhere. In all my moves, it got misplaced. I hope to find it again someday.

The winter holidays are all about family, the ones that are here and the ones that are gone. We lost GG Vi while we were in Okinawa, five months before returning to California. It broke my heart that we weren’t able to say goodbye, but I continue to remember her affectionately, especially this time of year.

I will never forget you, GG Vi, for you are always in my heart.

Wishing everyone Happy Holidays and joyful time spent with family and friends.